Prepare offers comprehensive violence prevention training and personal safety programs. In all our programs, we situate violence in the social and cultural context within which it exists. Along with the broad spectrum of curriculum we offer, we support the work of others in the anti-violence community. Our primary prevention programs work to change beliefs and behaviors before they lead to violence: health and life skills education, anti-bias and anti-bullying programs, and social and emotional learning fundamentals. We are best known for our secondary prevention self-defense and personal safety courses which feature the suited instructor: IMPACT Basics and Prepare classes for kids and teens. Our classes empower individuals to lead their lives fully, with the confidence that they have the tools to better manage what life brings their way.
Hilary Bok at Vox.com, writing about why people stay, reminds us that leaving can be dangerous, even fatal. While leaving is not everyone’s goal, if it is, then it would make sense to stay “at least until you had figured out how to leave safely and cover your tracks.” Not always so easy – where to go, how to support yourself and children, dealing with blowback from friends, family, community, managing shame and self-blame. Let’s just say, it is a high bar for many. And, because someone hasn’t left yet doesn’t mean they’re not in the process of figuring it out – which might require time and great discretion for the sake of their safety.
The capacities one would call on to leave are the same capacities that are being eroded by the cycle of abuse – for example, self-respect and confidence. The longer the relationship lasts, the more those capacities are affected, and the more ties have been created – financial, children, household, community for example. Contrary to myth, most women (85%) in an abusive relationship do leave, or at least try, according to Sara Staggs.